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Emotional Immaturity & Marriage: Am I Married to an Emotional Child?
In my part of the world, a lot of people get married when they're young. While most of us are physically mature enough to start a family...
Brandi K Harris, MS, LPC & LMFT
Feb 24, 2025


Are You an Emotional Adult?
What does it mean to grow up? Oftentimes clients in my office come to a realization that they are relating to the world as helpless...
Brandi K Harris, MS, LPC & LMFT
Feb 10, 2025


Choose Vulnerability
In my work with humans and their relationships, I often find that so many of us long for connection and intimacy with one another, but...
Brandi K Harris, MS, LPC & LMFT
Jan 15, 2025


Not the Happy Answer
Living in a culture that doesn't handle grief very well can be very invalidating. Most of us have experiences from time to time that...
Brandi K Harris, MS, LPC & LMFT
Dec 17, 2024


Productive Holiday Conflict
Last week my teenage boys got into yet another fight. Not physical (thank God), but emotional and ugly verbal. I know it's typical for...
Brandi K Harris, MS, LPC & LMFT
Dec 9, 2024


Be WITH Me
Sometimes in life we are faced with a decision that only we have the power to make. Maybe it affects others, but the turning point...
Brandi K Harris, MS, LPC & LMFT
Dec 2, 2024


Lust: Wanting a Different Life
For most of my religious life " lust" has been the term used by my community to shame any out-of-bounds sexual behavior. People use it...
Brandi K Harris, MS, LPC & LMFT
Nov 4, 2024


Shake the Dust: Boundaries in Action
How much is too much? How long is too long? As followers of Jesus are we called to make tenacious effort? How about endless effort? I...
Brandi K Harris, MS, LPC & LMFT
Oct 28, 2024


The Chasm Between Intention and Effect
"You made me feel stupid!" "I don't think you're stupid! I was just making a joke!" "You've left me out to dry!" "No I didn't, I was just...
Brandi K Harris, MS, LPC & LMFT
Aug 26, 2024


The Risk of Healing
When I first started my job as a counselor I was incredibly optimistic. I thought I could help every person who walked into my office. I...
Brandi K Harris, MS, LPC & LMFT
Jul 1, 2024


The Art of Vulnerability: Finding the Risks Worth Taking
Last week I spent traveling, which is something I don't do often. My love of my home and my hatred of having to sit still for too long...
Brandi K Harris, MS, LPC & LMFT
Jun 10, 2024


Getting Got
Have you ever met someone you felt like almost immediately "got" you? It's an odd feeling, right? Like they somehow knew you before they...
Brandi K Harris, MS, LPC & LMFT
Jun 3, 2024


Sexpectations
Maybe it seems way too formal to talk with your partner about what you each expect in bed. Maybe it doesn't seem sexy. But remember that...
Brandi K Harris, MS, LPC & LMFT
Mar 18, 2024


Being With
Last night I dreamed I was asked to give my testimony in front of a large number of struggling believers. Twenty minutes before the event...
Brandi K Harris, MS, LPC & LMFT
Mar 4, 2024


Why Emotional Health Is Important & How It’s Different than Mental Health
Mental health appears to be a hot cultural topic these days, but sometimes emotional health isn’t given quite the credence it deserves....
Brandi K Harris, MS, LPC & LMFT
Feb 18, 2024


Catan Fights: How Non-destructive Conflict Breeds Intimacy
A few years ago some of our best friends introduced us to the game of Catan. If you're not familiar, it's a multiplayer board game that...
Brandi K Harris, MS, LPC & LMFT
Feb 12, 2024


Wait, what now? Reading between the lines in passive aggressive communication
Growing up in a home that spoke fluent passive aggression, I am skilled at reading between the lines and catching messages sent under the...
Brandi K Harris, MS, LPC & LMFT
Jan 29, 2024


Why They Leave: 3 Risks Christian Marriages Have to Guard Against
How important is marriage? What if that marriage is unhealthy? What if my needs aren’t being met? Doesn’t God hate divorce? Marriage and...
Brandi K Harris, MS, LPC & LMFT
Jan 22, 2024


Why Am I Numb? The Effects of Emotional Neglect
You fall off your bike. You cry. You bleed. Your parent hears you, patches you up, and sends you back out into the world. But the next...
Brandi K Harris, MS, LPC & LMFT
Jan 15, 2024


Supported or Spoiled
Having interacted with a lot of kids over the course of my life leaves me recognizing differences. Now of course, every child is not only...
Brandi K Harris, MS, LPC & LMFT
Jan 1, 2024
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