And the two became one and lived happily ever after. The marriage we all expected to get? the beginning the pursuit the adventure the dance the climax the conclusion And yet, it hasn't even really begun. So many couples I meet with really love each other. Most come to me because they actually want to be closer, to be able to resolve their differences, to get to the root of their issues and learn how to love each other even better. But this blog isn't about them. This blog is

For my 5th grade birthday I invited five of my best friends over for a sleepover. We painted our nails. We ate pizza. We giggled. We ate cupcakes made to look like ice cream cones. We watched The Goonies , which we had rented from Blockbuster. And then Allison looked at Sarah wrong and Sarah turned her back and made Allison sleep on the edge of our pillow palette and then Kendra started crying because she felt bad for Allison. Then they all went home and were mad at each othe

Sometimes clients will tell me that they are struggling with "intimacy" when what they really mean is that they're not happy with their sex lives. According to them, sometimes there's not enough of it. Sometimes they aren't enjoying the sex they are having. Sometimes it means there's too much or the act itself is overwhelming (in a bad way). Most of the time they are trying to be prudent or PC by using the word "intimacy" rather than saying the word "sex," but interestingly

A friend called me recently to consult on some support she was providing to a recovery home for women in abusive relationships. The question at hand was how we could support this home, these women and the staff who care for them, in addition to any children involved from a psychological standpoint. This is a tough question because often humans recently rescued from traumatic situations are stuck mentally and emotionally in survival . While they may be immediately physically s

I'm not one to comply with cultural prompts for celebration or grief. I do, however, sometimes get inspired by current events. Martin Luther King, Jr. Day last week, reports of serious cruelty in my community, plus a podcast I've been listening to called Mother Country Radicals have piqued my curiosity about activism. What is it? How does it work? What are the potential risks and benefits? My current conclusion is that as a Christian I am without a doubt called to activism.