I have witnessed many humans traversing through life with a solid dead stare. The hurts, habits, and hangups have all become too much, so they've numbed and settled into the routine swell of solemn slavery. Whatever it is, they feel like they have to keep going. I don't want to disrespect this type of stability. It is certainly valuable to trudge through what must be endured. But let's be clear that there is another way to live. The other path perhaps feels sadder, because i

This question is wildly so much harder than it seems. Many clients come into the counseling office because something is off in their life. They're unhappy, they're frustrated, they're overwhelmed. But when I ask them what they hoping to get out of the experience, sometimes it's very hard for them to tell me. What do you want? Being disgruntled is a great place to start. Knowing what you don't want is better than knowing nothing at all. But the harder question will always b

Want to build a healthy relationship long-term? A friend asked recently for a sort of monthly check-in that might be valuable in intentionally building a healthy long-term romantic relationship. This blog is my response to her. I have written a similar free guide on a weekly marriage "staff meeting" that you can find in the resources here if you want to practice some regular intentional marriage care. When you’re ready to start dating, you’re only at the beginning of a proc

I loved school, but I especially loved math. It was the only subject where there was a single correct solution to a concrete problem. The simplicity was relieving in a world of grey. Getting points off on my math tests lit a fire in me to identify the problem I missed and figure out the actual answer. I immediately combed through the exam number by number, looking for what exactly I had gotten wrong. Quite a few times I found mistakes my teachers had made. The voracious hunt

I spent most of today stripping stain and varnish off a bed frame gifted to me by my aunt. I don't know what I'm doing. I watched a few YouTube videos, called a few experienced friends and borrowed a workspace and an orbital sander from a neighbor. I sent update pics to a few of my fans who cheered me on. I am learning as I go, failing and trying again. It's slow progress, but I am having a wonderful time. You could say that I spent most of my day alone, but it didn't feel li