Sometimes clients will tell me that they are struggling with "intimacy" when what they really mean is that they're not happy with their sex lives. According to them, sometimes there's not enough of it. Sometimes they aren't enjoying the sex they are having. Sometimes it means there's too much or the act itself is overwhelming (in a bad way). Most of the time they are trying to be prudent or PC by using the word "intimacy" rather than saying the word "sex," but interestingly

A friend called me recently to consult on some support she was providing to a recovery home for women in abusive relationships. The question at hand was how we could support this home, these women and the staff who care for them, in addition to any children involved from a psychological standpoint. This is a tough question because often humans recently rescued from traumatic situations are stuck mentally and emotionally in survival . While they may be immediately physically s

I'm not one to comply with cultural prompts for celebration or grief. I do, however, sometimes get inspired by current events. Martin Luther King, Jr. Day last week, reports of serious cruelty in my community, plus a podcast I've been listening to called Mother Country Radicals have piqued my curiosity about activism. What is it? How does it work? What are the potential risks and benefits? My current conclusion is that as a Christian I am without a doubt called to activism.

Buying a sports car and getting some botox? Running off to Paris for a week? Walking out of church and quitting your job on a whim? Did someone say midlife crisis? Physically, humans mature such that by the time they're twenty-four their brains and bodies are fully developed. But mentally, emotionally, and psychologically, we may take a lifetime. Or we may never arrive at fully functioning! As actual adolescents, some kids throw off old expectations and buck the system, runni

I sit in my office staring into the soul of another human being about a thousand hours a year. I have been doing this for almost twenty years. That's twenty thousand hours over the course of my career. And that doesn't count the time I spend with my friends and family and all the years I spent coaching and playing sports, all navigating the nuances of human relationships and interactions. I'm highly extroverted and intuitive. If there is one thing I feel is true about most hu