Body Image

No Really, It's Trauma

Doing EMDR work regularly now, I am realizing how many people prevent themselves from healing simply by refusing to recognize that their...

What's the Real Problem: Masturbation or Porn?

A lot of Christians are vehemently opposed to porn. They don't like the masochistic themes, the unethical treatment of women and...

Big Women: Who to follow for learning to love yourself

When men get big and loud we tend to believe they have something to get big and loud about. We think they're righting some wrong,...

What to Do When Your Kid Dresses Immodestly?

I have wrestled with this question so much because I grew up hearing I needed to "act like a lady," meaning cross my legs when I sat. I...

Older

Lately I've been concerned that neither I nor my clients have any idea what normal aging bodies look like. With social media, diet...

Sexual AND Good?

In the well-framed words by Esther Perel, she describes the confusing message of purity culture as "Sex is bad and dirty, but save it for...

Feminine

Growing up I knew of only two options: pretty, "graceful," gorgeous, clean, beautiful, and put together OR rough, rude, rugged, nasty,...

Afraid of Pleasure

This semester I'm teaching a workshop on sex to my church. It's called The Truth About Holy Sex. (Subscribe to my blog to catch the...