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Reckless Abandon
Being able to operate one-hundred percent freely is a privledge of only well-cared for children. When your parents have done a good job...
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Become the Party
Walking with a lot of clients through dating, I have watched an interesting transformation happen. Clients longing to connect often first...
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Basic Need: Reassurance
You walk into the first day at your new job excitedly wearing your red shoes. No one else is wearing red shoes. You gulp, put on your...
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Fear of Vulnerability
What are you afraid of? "I'm not afraid of anything," is what you are supposed to say. There's pressure in a fast moving world of...
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Shoot me Straight
One of the privileges of my job is the deep transparency many clients share with me. They often walk in ready to share so I have to be...
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Same AND Different
If you've been reading my posts lately you may be recognizing that not just people , but also entire cultures are sometimes emotionally...
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Safe and Secure
Human thriving requires connection. We're not designed to be islands. Isolation brings disease, disfunction and sorrow. But we can't...
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Saying Goodbye
I had a friend in college who hated goodbyes. He would annoyingly sneak out of every get-together without even a wink. We thought it was...
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Ask More Questions
You don't even know what you don't know. Often clients come into my office realizing that they're missing something in life, but they're...
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Let That Voice Out
From day one of my life on earth, I'm pretty sure I had a solid opinion. Some people call that a strong will. From that point forward...
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Emotional Immaturity & Marriage: Am I Married to an Emotional Child?
In my part of the world, a lot of people get married when they're young. While most of us are physically mature enough to start a family...
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Are You an Emotional Adult?
What does it mean to grow up? Oftentimes clients in my office come to a realization that they are relating to the world as helpless...
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Choose Vulnerability
In my work with humans and their relationships, I often find that so many of us long for connection and intimacy with one another, but...
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Not the Happy Answer
Living in a culture that doesn't handle grief very well can be very invalidating. Most of us have experiences from time to time that...
Brandi K Harris, MS, LPC & LMFT
Dec 17, 2024
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Productive Holiday Conflict
Last week my teenage boys got into yet another fight. Not physical (thank God), but emotional and ugly verbal. I know it's typical for...
Brandi K Harris, MS, LPC & LMFT
Dec 9, 2024
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Be WITH Me
Sometimes in life we are faced with a decision that only we have the power to make. Maybe it affects others, but the turning point...
Brandi K Harris, MS, LPC & LMFT
Dec 2, 2024
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Lust: Wanting a Different Life
For most of my religious life " lust" has been the term used by my community to shame any out-of-bounds sexual behavior. People use it...
Brandi K Harris, MS, LPC & LMFT
Nov 4, 2024
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Shake the Dust: Boundaries in Action
How much is too much? How long is too long? As followers of Jesus are we called to make tenacious effort? How about endless effort? I...
Brandi K Harris, MS, LPC & LMFT
Oct 28, 2024
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The Chasm Between Intention and Effect
"You made me feel stupid!" "I don't think you're stupid! I was just making a joke!" "You've left me out to dry!" "No I didn't, I was just...
Brandi K Harris, MS, LPC & LMFT
Aug 26, 2024
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The Risk of Healing
When I first started my job as a counselor I was incredibly optimistic. I thought I could help every person who walked into my office. I...
Brandi K Harris, MS, LPC & LMFT
Jul 1, 2024
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