Being able to operate one-hundred percent freely is a privledge of only well-cared for children. When your parents have done a good job...

Walking with a lot of clients through dating, I have watched an interesting transformation happen. Clients longing to connect often first...

You walk into the first day at your new job excitedly wearing your red shoes. No one else is wearing red shoes. You gulp, put on your...

What are you afraid of? "I'm not afraid of anything," is what you are supposed to say. There's pressure in a fast moving world of...

One of the privileges of my job is the deep transparency many clients share with me. They often walk in ready to share so I have to be...

If you've been reading my posts lately you may be recognizing that not just people , but also entire cultures are sometimes emotionally...

Human thriving requires connection. We're not designed to be islands. Isolation brings disease, disfunction and sorrow. But we can't...

I had a friend in college who hated goodbyes. He would annoyingly sneak out of every get-together without even a wink. We thought it was...

You don't even know what you don't know. Often clients come into my office realizing that they're missing something in life, but they're...

From day one of my life on earth, I'm pretty sure I had a solid opinion. Some people call that a strong will. From that point forward...

In my part of the world, a lot of people get married when they're young. While most of us are physically mature enough to start a family...

What does it mean to grow up? Oftentimes clients in my office come to a realization that they are relating to the world as helpless...

In my work with humans and their relationships, I often find that so many of us long for connection and intimacy with one another, but...

Living in a culture that doesn't handle grief very well can be very invalidating. Most of us have experiences from time to time that...

Last week my teenage boys got into yet another fight. Not physical (thank God), but emotional and ugly verbal. I know it's typical for...

Sometimes in life we are faced with a decision that only we have the power to make. Maybe it affects others, but the turning point...

For most of my religious life " lust" has been the term used by my community to shame any out-of-bounds sexual behavior. People use it...

How much is too much? How long is too long? As followers of Jesus are we called to make tenacious effort? How about endless effort? I...

"You made me feel stupid!" "I don't think you're stupid! I was just making a joke!" "You've left me out to dry!" "No I didn't, I was just...

When I first started my job as a counselor I was incredibly optimistic. I thought I could help every person who walked into my office. I...