Maintenance + Eye Contact
You've seen it… A crazed older man rummaging through the store, knocking things off the shelf, yelling erratically, "Where is it? Where...
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Be the Best Friend
I've been married for over twenty years. In that span of time I've been in a lot of different roles with my husband. I've been his lover,...
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Grape Bubble Gum
It was a chill night with good food and fun people. Then suddenly someone was yelling. There were obscure accusations. Wild threatening....
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NOT a Family
Please beware any company telling you that they are glad to have you as a part of their "family." Lately I've heard from several clients...
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The Whole Contract
No one gets to see the whole contract before they get married. Not a one of us. Signing up for a lifetime with another messy human is...
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Marriage Knots
It's funny to me that we colloquially refer to marriage as "tying the knot" because often that's exactly what I feel like I'm trying to...
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Gentler
A few weeks ago I was in El Salvador. I'd been warned that the culture there was much more subtle and that often Americans are perceived...
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Late Hope
***From my cousin's funeral a few years ago.*** We grew up seeing each other only on holidays when we were kids, so I don’t feel like I...
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Yourself is Good Enough
If I am this fragile just dropping my sweet girl off at camp for a month, what kind of sloppy mess will I be when I have to leave her at...
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Maintenance + Adulting
There are quite a few things in life that I do ONLY because I have to. For example… documenting my sessions with clients, going to the...
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Maintenance + Dates
I am ashamed to say this, but I am naturally such a workaholic it would be easy to lose my mind into a wormhole of writing, thinking and...
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Maintenance + Routines
My family life is definitely a circus. With two and a half teens, two vibrant careers, two groups of extended families, a communal living...
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Maintenance + Flirting
When I was a kid, flirting was SO FUN. It was kidding around; a risk-free jovial exchange. It cost me nothing but playful energy. All...
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Maintenance +
Americans tend to have a pretty romantic view of marriage. We don't just want a horse to hitch our wagon to, a housing agreement and a...
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Next to Me
This weekend marked the final push for several tasks on my current project (The Truth About Holy Sex). Once again I am battling with my...
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Ways to Love (Part Two)
It feels so good to be really listened to. It means the world to me when a friend picks out just the perfect thing I would like. But to...
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Brandi K Harris, MS, LPC & LMFT
- Dec 27, 2021
Ways to Love (Part One)
In my office sometimes I spend a whole hour just listening. I nod my head. I make eye contact. Sometimes I cry with my clients. Those...
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