When You Fall for Someone

When's the last time you fell for someone? And what was it that made you fall? Is it pure animal attraction? Desirable character? Same life goals?

Was it a romantic partner? Or can we also fall for influencers, performers, and educators? Maybe a magnetic personality? Religious leader? Political pundit?

The implication of falling is that when you lean in like that you make yourself more vulnerable to whomever it is. You suddenly trust them more. Their opinion matters to you more. You care how they feel about you.

Falling for someone also implies some element of victimhood. It doesn't seem like most people fall on purpose. It just happens to them.

Can you feel when you're about to fall? Whatever the charisma, are you aware when your head starts to swirl and you feel a bit charmed? Like, dang, this one's good! If I'm not careful, I'll fall right in!

Children do not know when they are falling. They fall hard, but they also recover fairly quickly with support. Adults don't fall quite so easily. They have more practice with balance, but when they do fall, it hurts more and it's harder to recover.

Even good, healthy adults fall sometimes. The real questions are when you fall, do you have a community around you who can help you recover and can you be graceful enough with yourself to acknowledge the fall and take care of yourself?

It's not always bad to fall. With a lot of good people, falling can be both exhilarating and freeing. It's much safer and empowering to live life with a group of people who are working together. It means we all have each other's backs.

I hope you find good people to fall for.