Site participants are expected to be above all else respectful. Differing opinions and ideas are expected and encouraged, because without them we would not have a discussion, but if the conversation becomes unkind or portrays hatred in any way, that member will be excused from participation.
Finding your story and understanding it is hard. It's not without confusion. Because it's such a difficult adventure, we all have to work very hard to keep the conversation moving gracefully, rather than halting it with harsh language or gag assumptions.
Your best bet is to maintain humility, remembering that you are as likely to be misled as anyone else, and that you have something to learn as well.
Ask your questions, but ask them gently. Tell us your story, but don't think yours is the only one.